We all know that dating can be hard. And it’s even harder to find the right person for you. But if you’re serious about finding the love of your life, then it’s time to get serious about going from dating to marriage.
You might be thinking: “But I’m not ready for marriage!” But I promise you are. You just haven’t realized it yet. You’ve been in a relationship that hasn’t worked out, and now you’re ready to find someone new—someone who will make you happy forever.
But if your relationship is going well, but you’re not sure how to go from dating to marriage, here are some tips on how to make that happen:
Recognize that you’ve outgrown your old relationship
You’ve probably noticed that life seems to be moving faster than ever before. And if you’re like most people, that means you’re trying to juggle a lot of things at once—including dating and marriage.
The best way to go from dating to marriage is by recognizing that you’ve outgrown your old relationship.
It’s important to pay attention to this because it can help you avoid getting stuck in a cycle of “dating” without actually moving forward. When you feel like your relationship has hit a plateau, it’s time for you to take a step back and ask yourself if there might be something else out there for you.
When we get comfortable with where we are in life, it can be hard to imagine anything else could be better or more fulfilling than what we already have—but don’t let fear of change hold you back from finding true happiness!
Address any trust issues.
One of the most important things you can do to go from dating to marriage is to address any trust issues that might be standing in your way. If you’ve been hurt by a previous partner, or if you’ve been the one who has hurt someone else, it’s time to get real with yourself and figure out why it happened and how you can avoid it in the future.
You deserve to have a healthy relationship that makes both people feel safe and valued, and if you don’t feel confident enough in your ability, to be honest with yourself about what went wrong before, then it’s unlikely that a new partner will be able to help you sort through those feelings.
Relationships are tricky, and it’s important to know what you’re getting into before making your commitment. If you have any doubts about whether or not your partner is trustworthy, there’s no time like the present to address them head-on. This is especially true if you’re thinking about moving in together or getting engaged.
If you know that the two of you are on the same page when it comes to trust (or if they’ve already proven themselves trustworthy), then congratulations! You can now turn your focus outward and start planning your wedding day.
Fix things that were stopping you from committing before.
Dating is great, but if you’re ready to go from dating to marriage, you’ll have to fix things that were stopping you from committing before.
-If you have a tendency to get jealous when your partner talks about other women, it’s time for some serious work on yourself. You need to learn how to communicate your feelings in a way that doesn’t make your partner feel like they can’t talk about their experiences with other people.
-If your partner has a tendency toward jealousy, they might be able to help themselves by learning how to communicate their feelings in a way that doesn’t make you feel like they can’t talk about their experiences with other people.
-If one of you is the type who wants kids and the other isn’t sure yet (or vice versa), it’s probably not going to work out unless one of you is willing to compromise on this issue.
The most common thing we hear from people who have been dating for a while but haven’t gotten married yet is that they still have some issues from their past that they haven’t dealt with. If this sounds like you, here are some steps we recommend taking in making sure it’s worth going from dating to marriage:
- Figure out what those issues are and work on them. You might be able to seek professional help or talk about them with friends or family members who will be supportive of your decision to work through them and get married someday.
- Make sure your partner knows about the issue(s) and has agreed to stay with you despite them (otherwise there won’t be a marriage!). Make sure they agree this is something they are willing and able to deal with over time—that way both of you know what’s going on in your relationship (which is always good).
- Tell everyone else about your issues so that nobody thinks you’re hiding anything or being dishonest when discussing why you are yet to go from dating to marriage.
Get on the same page about living together.
You may be in love and ready to move in with your partner, but when you start talking about it, you’re likely to run into some roadblocks. You want to live together because it’s a big step toward marriage, but he might not be ready for that commitment yet. Or maybe he’s afraid of what people will think if they find out that the two of you are living together before marriage.
The best way to get past these problems is to sit down and have a conversation about them—you’ll need to know how each other feels about the stage of dating where you are right now, and what you hope will happen next. If one or both of you are hesitant about moving in together, then this is probably not the right time to do so. Instead, try doing something else new together instead—like traveling!
Dating is fun, but marriage is serious.
It’s a big commitment! This means you want to make sure you’re both on the same page when it comes to living together—and not just in terms of what kind of house you’ll live in (though that’s important). You also want to make sure your partner understands and supports your decision to move forward.
That’s why I recommend starting with the basics: getting on the same page about living together if you must move from dating to marriage.
This doesn’t mean you have to have the exact same vision for what this means for your life, but it does mean that you need to talk about your expectations for each other—and for yourselves—in the context of moving forward together.
Communicate with each other in positive ways.
The best way to go from dating to marriage is by communicating with each other in a positive way so that you don’t get stuck in an endless cycle of back-and-forth arguments. Remember that the person you’re dating is not your enemy! They’re a person who wants to be with you and have a future together as much as you do.
If you can’t figure out how to talk about what’s bothering you, ask them what they think will help the situation and then listen carefully while they speak their mind. Once they’ve said their piece, return the favor by saying what it is that bothers you about their behavior and how it makes you feel. This way, both of you will know where each other stands on the issue at hand and can move forward toward a resolution together rather than going around in circles forever like an angry hamster on its wheel (which would be really annoying if it were actually happening).
When you communicate in a positive way, you are letting your partner know that you are listening to what they have to say and that you care about their opinion. You can communicate positively by using “I” statements instead of “you” statements, which will not only help you get your point across without being aggressive but also show that your partner’s opinion matters to you.
It’s easy to fall into the habit of communicating negatively—and even if you don’t mean to be negative, your partner may take what you say as such. So how do you communicate positively? Here are some tips:
-Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. For example, saying “You never help me out around the house” is going to make your partner feel attacked. Instead, try saying something like “I would love for you to help me clean up after dinner.”
-Use “we” statements instead of “I” statements whenever possible. This makes it clear that both people are working together on the issue at hand and not just one person making demands and leaving the other out of the decision-making process.
Know that there are some things you can’t change about each other.
Here’s what I’ve learned: The best way or probably one of the best ways to go from dating to marriage is by being aware of some things that are going to be true about your partner no matter what. You can’t change them or make them different, but you can learn how to work with them and around them. And that’s where having a good relationship starts.
So here are two important things to keep in mind as you go from dating to marriage:
- Your partner will always have some habits that drive you crazy. It’s not personal—it’s just who they are! So instead of getting mad at them for it, try working around it or thinking about it as part of their charm. It’ll keep the peace in your relationship and make life easier for both of you overall!
- Your partner will always have some habits that drive YOU crazy… but not everyone else! So if your friends aren’t bothered by something about your partner, don’t take it personally when they tease you about it.
- Know that there are some things you can’t change about each other.
When you start dating someone, you might notice a few things about them that bug you. Maybe their apartment is a mess. Maybe they snore too loudly when they sleep. Maybe they’re always late to dates or meetings because they’re always running from one thing to another.
These are things that are hard to change about people, and if you’re going from dating to marriage with this person, then it’s important to know that there are some things you won’t be able to change about each other. You’ll have to accept those things—even love them—or else your relationship will never work out the way it should.
If we look at marriage as an example: If a person has emotional baggage from their past (like a bad childhood), there isn’t much that can be done about that except for being supportive of them and helping them work through their issues in therapy or with other support systems (like friends or family). And even then, sometimes these problems don’t go away entirely; they just get better over time with patience and support from those who care about them most deeply.
So when dating someone new, make sure you know what kind of baggage he or she brings.
Plan a wedding that reflects what the two of you have found out about each other in your relationship.
Are you ready to go from dating to marriage? If so, we have just the thing for you.
Our first step is to plan a wedding that reflects what the two of you have found out about each other in your relationship. For example, if the two of you are animal lovers and enjoy spending time at the zoo, why not incorporate animals into your wedding? You could have a ring bearer dressed as a bear and a flower girl dressed as an elephant 😂😂😂😂—the possibilities are endless!
Next, take care to choose a date that works well with your schedule. For example, if one of you is busy on Tuesdays with work and the other is busy on Thursdays with class, it may be best to schedule your wedding on a Saturday or Sunday so no one has to miss work or school.
Finally, remember that marriage takes work! The two of you will need to be committed to making each other happy throughout your lives together.
Takeaway: How to go from dating to marriage
In summary, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to going from dating to marriage. It’s not something that you can do overnight, or under a month; it takes time and care. But with the right mindset and overall goal in mind, you can make the transition successfully. And if you’re finding yourself stuck along the way, remember that you’ll never need to go at this alone; there are people out there who can help you along the way.
You’ll be stronger as a married couple if you honestly work through things that could cause problems later on.