Why Dating In Your 30s Is Much Better Than In Your 20s

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I still vividly remember the first time I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror after turning 30. It didn’t hit me right away, but when it did, it was like the big, red stop sign you find in the middle of a street in your town and think to yourself, “huh? How did that get there?”

Honestly, dating in your 30s is a lot like the rest of life: you know what you want and what you don’t, you’re not afraid to speak your mind and your standards are higher than ever before. You’ve learned how to be a good communicator too, which makes things easier for everyone involved (including yourself). Basically, dating in your 30s is fun — because it’s less stressful than dating was back when we were 20somethings who thought everything was going to work out perfectly with that guy who ended up being wrong for us anyway. But there are also some key differences between dating now versus then that make this stage even better:

You know what you want and what you don’t.

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In your 20s, you were more likely to take what was given. Your dating pool was smaller and you had fewer options, so it made sense to settle for someone you weren’t crazy about because they were the best option at that time.

In your 30s, however, you have a whole new world of possibilities at your fingertips—and unlike in college when your only choice might have been going home or sleeping over at a friend’s place if things didn’t work out with someone who wasn’t right for you (or vice versa), nowadays there are many different ways to connect with people online. You can go on dates that don’t work out but still feel like fun experiences (and maybe even make some new friends) rather than feeling like something went wrong because one person didn’t like another.

Read also: How To Build A Lasting Relationship With A Younger Guy

You’re not afraid to speak your mind.

One of the best parts about dating in your 30s is that you’re finally comfortable enough with who you are to speak your mind. You don’t feel like you need to be someone else or pretend that something doesn’t matter if it does. And because of this, it will be easier for you to find a partner who respects and values your needs—not one who tries to change them.

In addition, you know what kind of relationship will work for you and what kind won’t. You no longer feel like settling just because he’s cute or funny; instead, you can focus on things like chemistry and compatibility instead of just going out on a date because it seems like the thing to do at the time (or worse: because he asked).

Your standards are higher.

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Perhaps the most important change that comes with age is a better understanding of what you want from a partner and how to get it. In your 20s, you might settle for someone who isn’t right for you because you don’t know what makes for a good match. You’re more likely to be in an unhealthy relationship than an older person would be because younger people are often less confident about their needs and desires, which can make them more vulnerable to manipulation or abuse from their romantic partners.

As we grow older and more experienced, we become more selective when choosing partners—and as a result, our relationships tend to last longer and yield greater rewards than they did in our youth. There’s no doubt that dating later in life can be difficult at times; but when things are going well between two people who’ve each put their best foot forward (and have the wisdom of age behind them), there’s little that could make these relationships any better!

You’ve learned how to be a good communicator.

As a young adult, your dating life was likely fueled by passion and infatuation. Your first instinct was to tell your partner exactly what you wanted or felt. You were assertive and confident, which is a great thing when you’re young! But that doesn’t always translate into good communication skills in relationships.

In your 30s, you’ve learned how to be open-minded with others’ opinions without letting yourself be steamrolled over by them. You also understand the importance of listening to others—it’s one of the most important aspects of having successful relationships with friends or romantic partners alike. There’s nothing worse than feeling like someone isn’t listening to your needs as an individual, so it’s important that you’re an active listener too!

You’ve also learned how important communication is in keeping any kind of relationship healthy. If there are issues between two people who love each other enough (as opposed to just being “in love”), those problems need to be talked about immediately before they become insurmountable hurdles between them

You’re not going to sell yourself short.

In your 20s, you may have been tempted to settle for something less than what you really wanted in the name of love. You didn’t want to seem too picky or demanding, especially if it meant missing out on that sweet post-college honeymoon phase where everything is new and exciting. But now? Things are different: you’re confident in who you are and what your needs are, and if someone doesn’t meet them, then they don’t deserve a place in your life anyway.

You’ve got plenty more experience under your belt, including how to communicate effectively with others so that everyone knows exactly where they stand with each other. You know how important it is not only for yourself but also for any potential partners out there (especially those who aren’t into open relationships) that there’s mutual understanding regarding expectations within relationships because nobody wants surprises down the road when things start going south!

You’ve discovered that one way or another, everything is a deal-breaker.

As you get older, you’ll be more selective about who you date. You know what you want and what you don’t want in a relationship, so the initial stages of dating will be easier to navigate. You’ve also likely discovered that everything is a deal-breaker—and that’s okay! It’s good to have boundaries in place because when they are crossed or violated, it can be more hurtful than if they had never been put there in the first place.

As an example: My deal-breakers include being treated as someone’s maid or housekeeper (i.e., having my boyfriend clean up after himself without any help from me), having my feelings dismissed without acknowledgment or consideration for my feelings (or being told “that’s just how he is” when I express displeasure over something), or having an affair with someone else without telling me about it immediately afterward (or even during).

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To recap, Here are four things to know about dating at this point in life:

  • You’re more confident and comfortable in your own skin. You don’t put up with anything from anyone anymore—you’re not afraid to speak your mind or say what needs saying.
  • You know what you want and what you don’t want. Your standards are higher for the types of people who can fit into your life, and because of this, dating is easier than ever before.
  • You’ve learned how to be a good communicator. In fact, one of the most important things that happen when we reach our 30s is that we learn how valuable honest communication really is on a relationship level; having good communication skills makes it much easier for us when we’re out there looking for love!
  • You’re more open-minded than ever before. You realize that there are many ways to be happy and successful, and you don’t have to do things the way your parents did them in order to be happy.


When you’re in your 20s, dating can be stressful and make you question yourself. But when you reach your 30s, this is all behind you. You know who you are, what you want out of life and love, and how to communicate effectively with others. You have standards that will not waver or compromise easily. And while some things may be deal breakers for others (like height), they aren’t for us because we’ve learned to accept ourselves unconditionally!

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